Are you wondering “why not me”?

I don’t know who needs to hear this….

You ever had one of those days where you’re wondering “why not me”?

You’re questioning why you didn’t get that opportunity… why weren’t you included or invited.

This happened to me this week - it’s not the first time this has happened and it won’t be the last - but I wanted to share this with you in case you’ve been there and thinking it’s just you.

Anyways, I see others being included and my first thought was, “well, how come I wasn’t included/asked” and while that’s a real feeling it not an accurate thought process.

And I say that about the accuracy of the thought process because as I drilled into the opportunity I know that it’s not something I’m even remotely interested in doing, so why I am even bothered. Why am I feeling this way for something I don’t want? Is it because I wasn’t asked? And if that’s the case, who cares.

And it’s this gut check that I depend on when I get those fraudy feelings and question am I good enough. It’s that assessment that really centers me.

Reframe it from “why not me” to “good for those included”

AND even if it was an opportunity I wanted, others being selected have nothing to do with my worth. There will be other opportunities for me, right?!

Heck, I make opportunities🔆

If I wanted to be a part of that thing, I could reach out and make the ask to be included.

And that’s where we mess us.

Running a business is not about you sitting back and waiting to be picked. You can pursue opportunities too… and make your own opportunities.

And that’s ultimately my process when I get bothered by not being picked.

So, if you get into this situation, try this THREE step process:
1️⃣do a gut check to see if you even wanted it
2️⃣if you want it, make the ask
3️⃣don’t make the outcome, good or bad, mean anything about your worth

In the comments👇🏾below, tell me if this has ever happened to you and if it has, how did you handle it?

You got this!

Tian